September 22, 2020
- This is a public service announcement.
- Even those of us who are not naturally what one would consider carefree, miss our own muted versions of that heretofore unappreciated pleasure.
- Feel your feelings and find what joy you can. We will come to the end of this.
Who else is tired? Tired of thinking about COVID every day, tired of remembering to put your mask on. Tired of feeling obligated to throw a dirty look at the guy in the grocery store whose mask is riding below his nose in the grocery store. Tired of wondering whether to send your kids to school which will expose them to potential illness and possibly even death, or keep them home, impeding your career and potentially stunting their social development? Tired of having every single thing you do, or consider doing affected by this wretched virus, knowing it would be over by now, or at least under control, if we could have banded together in the beginning, if we had proper protocols in place that were actually adhered to? Tired of lack of leadership?
Even those of us who are not naturally what one would consider carefree, miss our own muted versions of that heretofore unappreciated pleasure. Kids can’t celebrate their birthdays, adults are out of work, business owners are debating whether to let more people go, and the whole thing is just exhausting. Living for what’s next on Netflix is not a satisfying existence for any of us. There is too much fear. There is much too much hatred. Who isn’t tired of it all? Probably not many.
So, this is a public service announcement. There are many upbeat, helpful self-care posts out there. And all of those are valid. Self-care is magical. Your favorite chocolate, a long bath, the latest book from your favorite author. And thank everything that writers can create in quarantine, right?
But know that if you need to wallow, it’s ok to wallow. If you need to get sloppy drunk and cry for a day to release all your fear and frustration, do it. Because that’s a form of self-care as well. There’s nothing abnormal about feeling helpless when there are staggering problems that are beyond our power to fix. There is nothing wrong with anger when the situation is exacerbated because we can’t all get on the same page about the things we can control. There’s nothing wrong even with feeling hopeless, as long as you remember to move past that at some point. And often, experiencing something fully is the only way to move past it. So, feel your feelings, and find what joy you can. We will come to the end of this. Make sure you’re in a place to enjoy it when that day does come.